Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. Today as I look outside the window I see a small bird land on the ledge and he/she appears to be looking for a place to nest and begin a mutual cohabitation and family system. So as I sit here before the keyboard and begin to consider the importance of trust, I reflect on how all different types of species emulate the same types of bonding behaviors and relational systems that we do as humans. When I consider this reflection more broadly I begin to formulate this sense from both a personal and clinical standpoint that trust is not only a psychological need, but also is hardwired into our biology, and genetic structure. Trust is a central component in social bonding as well as for the maintenance of healthy interpersonal functioning. I would like to encourage you to reflect more upon this subject matter and ask you to consider the following ways of building trust into your own relationships.
- Communicate intentions clearly and openly (Ex: establish a common understanding around each individuals expectations of the social situation).
- Display of trustworthy behaviors (Ex: demonstrate a willingness to honor the words, actions, and decisions of significant others).
- Increase coperation through sharing and problem solving (Ex: practice using conflict resolution skills).
- Manage intensity and emotional reactivity (Ex: learn to diffuse anger, frustration, or disappointment through empathy building).
The previous list of techniques are important to provide you with guidance to help build trust into your relationships for both couples and families. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your relationships.
“Encouraging growth to improve and sustain positive relationships”
Contact us at Counseling Services Direct for Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy and get started today: (O) 516-484-2829 or (C) 914-960-2723.
Stacey Chernin, M.A., LMFT, CFT
References: Lewicki, RoyJ. and Edward C. Tomlinson. “Trust and Trust Building.” Beyond Intractability. Eds. Guy Burgess and Heidi Burgess. Conflict Research Consortium, University of Colorado, Boulder. Posted: December 2003.