Welcome to Counseling Services Direct for Marriage and Family Therapy. Anger is an emotion and response to a perceived event in the environment. Anger is a normal emotion that can be utilized in a positive way to address and resolve offending stimuli, however it can also become counterproductive when it is not controlled. Anger occurs at three levels which are cognitive (interpretation), sonatic-affective (physiological), and behavioral (action). Individual therapy and couples counseling can be important resources to help address uncontrolled anger. Anger management is central to healthy relationships, otherwise uncontrolled reactivity can cause interactions that are out of balance and destructive.
Healthy relationships are based upon behaviors that are conscious and intentional as well as goal directed. There are several ways in which you can heal your relationship by adapting new ways to deal with anger; which is by understanding the origin of your anger, becoming familiar with environmental triggers, paying attention to somatic signs, slowing down and reflecting, gaining perspective, and by transforming anger into empathy. Here is a book to consider reviewing on this topic that may be helpful: Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Break the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs, and Stony Silences W. Robert Nay Phd. I would like to encouage you to consider the following ways in which you can begin to reveal your inner potiential to address anger and build healthy relationships.
- Build understanding and empathy into your life and relationships by choosing to awaken and uncover your senses by being open to learning new ways to make healthier choices to deal with anger. (EX: Slow down and set your sights on changing your old patterns by choosing to deal with anger constructively with the core goal of creating inner and outer peace by meditating on this mindset diaily so it becomes built into your awareness).
- Develop a clear view that is undistorted to create wisdom, awareness, and concentration around managing anger. (EX: Create insight by paying attention to your thoughts and practice through meditation to enhance your sense of sympathy and understanding toward yourself and others).
The previous points are important to provide you with information to help you acknowledge the importance of anger management. I hope this information has been helpful and has awakened your awareness of the value they hold in providing a strong foundation for the health of your marriage, family and all your important relationships.
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Stacey Chernin, M.A., LMFT, CFT